How does one do away with unnecessary feelings?

Answer these questions to yourself:

Ever grow a comraderie with someone and develop feelings for them that can not be returned?

Ever been wronged by someone or something and want to react so bad, but you know you will be ignored?

Well these questions are so damn lame because you know you can't help how you feel; but it reminds me of being on the road and someone cutting you off; its almost completely unnecessary to act on these feeling by cussing that person out, but still we do it. Having a certain feeling, whether it be bad or good and not being able to express yourself is hard and even harder if its not reciprocated. You wonder what's wrong with you, or what can you do... I find that whenever I see no hope, I do the worse thing and throw the feelings aside and try to make nice with the person in hopes that the feelings will subside. But then I am likely making myself even more vulnerable and so I distance myself from the secret of the entire thing, just to ensure that they are passing feelings - they will pass, I will move on. That usually works.

I make my feelings a personal dispute, but at the same time, I feel the need to make it my responsibility when someone else has feelings for me. Like seriously, I know... I feel foolish admitting this to the masses. I try to be "mean" but I can't if I know their feelings are involved.  I have feelings and I know how I feel being rejected, and I don't want to cause pain or harm to anyone.  But at the same time, I don't like MANY types of people, some of which I cannot even stomach. I guess its a situation where I have to put myself first when its this bad. I'm still learning.

Then of course there are the ones that hurt me and I can't let them know how they made me feel.  Its probably the most gut-wrenching thing when some truly hurt you, but doesn't have the balls to sit and listen and further make peace with their fuck up. I don't even wish I could make them listen, they should WANT to listen if they ever gave a fuck about me. Yes, it STILL hurts like hell.

I guess at some point time really is the savior. But in today's world, where everything is so fast-paced, I cannot help but be a little impatient. I'm sure I'm not alone. But it helps to keep myself occupied to not think of those who have done me wrong, maintain a sense of self as well in dealing with something I don't particularly like and of course, giving myself a chance to get over unnecessary feelings, good or bad, to bring further (re)maturity in dealing with the opposite sex.