Dating

Ehhhh.... yeah, I don't really like what it means to date. Its one of those things where you expose yourself to foolery.  I just recently said I would seriously give dating a legitimate try and I am stumped with all the men suffering from some form of psychosis. Some of yall are entirely too damn needy! I thought I had my needy moments, but damn.

Probably the biggest pitfall is some basically reads my credentials like I'm applying for a job. They say:

Pretty? yes
Nice Body? ummm yes
Big ass? oh yes
Nice rack? fuck yes
Pretty smile? yes
Car? yes
Smells good? yes

okay, the basics are done, now on to the more detailed information.

Single? yes
Kids? no
Ever been married? no
Job/School? School
Cook? yes

And since I am a woman with a nice rack, no kids, with money in my pocket and a car... oh and I can cook? I become this hot commodity. The chasing ensues because of this, which I don't particularly like. I've never been into guys that try too hard, but rather those who far more relaxed. I never was into guys that tell me "I want to take care of you" because it makes me feel like you would rather me just be at your disposal. I know it seems a stretch, but you would be amazed of the number of men that have said that to me, and then prove me right. I can't be in a relationship with little to no voice; ask my dad. I will run my mouth when I feel passionately about something. No one can stop me but me.

Then of course there is the man himself. What the hell does he have to offer me? Is he a mama's boy? Is he crazy? Does he have kids? How many baby mama's vs. kid's mother? How much stress will this dude cause me? I don't ever ask regular run-of-the-mill questions like that because I feel like if a man was sincere, he would just let me know. I find that most of the men I've talked to so far are eager to tell me they have children, their ages. But this is my first time really dealing with kids because before, I just like younger men that had no children. Getting over that hump, its easy to see that MOST BLACK MEN my age have children in the State of California. If you don't agree, come forward right now. We will duel it out! LOL!

I guess dating is something to do in order to know what I don't want in a relationship or in a marriage. I do want to get married. I have no marker as to when, but I want it to happen as well as children of my own. I recently met someone as a friend and its more relaxed and very sufficient so far. I also met someone who has pursued me with cool intentions, but because he is obviously trying to get me just be his girlfriend with incredible amount of speed, I can't deal. Its not something I am interested in at the moment. If I am going to be in a relationship, I will do it because I feel comfortable with that person and I have feelings for them. Until then, that's why I have dating, to feel your monkey ass out.